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Before we could wave, clap and flip someone off in six different skin tones, buy canada goose jacket emojis were just yellow. Simpsons yellow. This default, universal cartoon “skin” was based off of Caucasian skin tones. (And FYI, even on The Simpsons, black and brown characters were drawn black and brown.)

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